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A New Beginning

My wife and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary today. I was hoping to take her to some fancy restaurant after dropping our kids off at our in-laws, but instead we’ll be heading to a restaurant close to my in-laws and hopefully won’t be getting the dreaded, “HURRY UP AND GET HOME” phone call with kids wailing in the background.

In the Bible, the number 8 is associated with new beginnings and resurrection: 7 is the day of completion and rest, so 8 is the first in a new series, and Jews were to be circumcised on the eighth day. As we celebrate 8 years of marriage, it feels like God is giving us a fresh start and it’s hard to keep track of all that’s running through our thoughts and prayers.

And this is why I decided to take up this blog again. Safe to say that blogging got tiring for me because I wanted to be a “good” blogger who not only wrote material but also engaged my readers and other bloggers. Far too many times, I found myself thinking about a clever tweet relating to parenting without actually doing any parenting or thinking “This will make a great post” instead of enjoying the moment with my family. My tendency to get addicted to things didn’t help matters. I checked my iFriend all the time: “Hold on hon, I have to see if anyone tweeted me.” In fact, my relationship with my phone has escalated to the point my wife calls it my ife now (as in wife). She jokingly says that but there’s certainly truth in there that even a husband as dull as I noticed.

I don’t know if this blog will be any “good” but I do want it to be something I can look back on and maybe even my kids can read in the future.

Now back to my wife. The reason I mention the Biblical meaning of the number 8 is because God really is giving us a new beginning and resurrection. Dreams I’ve long forgotten are being restored. Emotional and spiritual wounds and scars I’ve tried to suppress or didn’t even know were affecting my present are being healed. My kids are growing up way too fast – D1 is 5, the age at which I had my first crush – and my wife and I have been praying for wisdom on how to raise them. I used to have a neat 5 and even 10 year plan for life but almost all of that is changing. As much as I’d like life to be formulaic and predictable, it isn’t.

And that’s why as we celebrate our anniversary today, I’m grateful for my wife. The future is uncertain and raising kids can be scary and frustrating at times, but I’m glad we get to take this journey together. She makes me want to be a better man for her, for my kids, and for everyone we meet. She encourages me when I’m down and reminds me of Christ’s example of humility when I’m proud. She lets me eat her last bite of cheesecake. With a woman like that by my side, I think I’ll be ok in trying to be the best dad I can be.

  1. March 28, 2013 at 1:39 pm

    I love this post so much. You sound like my husband a little bit. We’re newlyweds… literally married almost 3 months ago (lol). It’s good to hear that you guys are just working things out as time goes on. I Love it! Check out my blog too if you get a chance! frommiss2mrs1.wordpress.com

    • Pop
      March 28, 2013 at 3:01 pm

      Thank you! And I love reading about newlyweds. Sometimes, it seems like our newlywed days weren’t that long ago; other days, it feels like a different life time!

      On Thu, Mar 28, 2013 at 1:39 PM, Go, Pop, Go!

  2. March 28, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    Congratulations on 8 years. I’m glad you renewed your blogging. I always enjoy reading your posts. It’s one of the few blogs I enjoy even when there aren’t pictures. Blogging can be addictive. Many of us have been there. I hope you are able to strike up a healthy balance between family and social media. I’m sure there’s a blog out there somewhere telling us how to be better at that. LOL.

    • Pop
      March 28, 2013 at 3:01 pm

      Thank you. I’m sure there’s a blog or a 25 picture slideshow that details all of that 😛

      On Thu, Mar 28, 2013 at 2:07 PM, Go, Pop, Go!

  3. March 28, 2013 at 10:10 pm

    Happy Anniversary. I hope it is blessed beyond measure. 🙂

  4. March 30, 2013 at 9:05 am

    Awwww…welcome back and happy anniversary

    • Pop
      April 2, 2013 at 3:13 pm

      Thank you! Hoping for many more.

      On Sat, Mar 30, 2013 at 9:05 AM, Go, Pop, Go!

  5. April 1, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    I think that “last bite of cheesecake” trait could be a good barometer for any marriage.
    My husband is like that, too.

    For 17 years.

    So welcome back and keep focusing on what’s really important in life.

    Everything else is just dessert.

    • Pop
      April 2, 2013 at 3:13 pm

      But dessert is the best part…WAAAH! 😛

      You and I both definitely found keepers!

  6. April 2, 2013 at 10:07 am

    Welcome back, man – I was just wondering where you had gotten to.

    I, too, have been having an issue with my phone — trying to find a good balance between being “engaged” without being “obsessed.” More often than not, lately, it means that my phone has been off. And I haven’t been visiting blogs — because, yeah, “real life” is a whole lot more fun when you’re actually living it.

    That said – truly, though, it’s good to see you back here.

    • Pop
      April 2, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      With D1 now almost of school age (EEK!!!!), I’ve contemplated sending out a distress signal via the blog.

      I definitely tend to lean towards obsessed on just about everything. Balance isn’t easy to find (or does such a thing exist?). But I’ve certainly missed some of my favorite bloggers (like yourself).

      On Tue, Apr 2, 2013 at 10:07 AM, Go, Pop, Go!

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