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January 24, 2012 Leave a comment Go to comments

I recently turned 30. My wife and friends surprised me (those sneaky hobbitses) the day before with a birthday bash. Maybe it was their friendship or maybe it was the freaky clown on the cake

I apologize if you are afraid of clowns

but when I looked in the mirror on my birthday, I told mysellf, “enough is enough.”

You see, I entered 2012 in a pretty sorry state.

For those who’ve been following this blog, you know we’ve been trying to sell our home. Well, we  sold it a few days after Christmas. After having our home on the market for nearly 8 months, you’d think I’d be excited but those 8 months were arduous, as we had to mull through low-ball after low-ball offer. After all that waiting, we still ended up selling our home for much lower than we anticipated and had to wipe out our savings and borrow from my sister in order to complete the sale.

I kept saying positive things to my wife like, “You know, some people had it much worse and lost a lot more money on their homes,” “Sure, if we rented after we got married we would’ve been in a better state but 7 years ago, NO ONE was renting because home values were skyrocketing,” “Sure they took all our money, but at least they didn’t take away our kids or vital organs or anything.” But who am I kidding? I wasn’t trying to alleviate any of my wife’s concerns; I was attempting to reassure myself that I wasn’t a complete failure.

I say I don’t subscribe to traditional gender roles but when it comes down to it, I still consider it my duty to provide for my family. After having been married for 7 years, all I had to show for it was $13.54 in my savings account and I’m now living with my parents as a 30 year old.

When I’m feeling down, I usually turn to food. If you couldn’t tell, I kind of like food. A lot. So the entire holiday season, I felt like Fat Bastard from Austin Powers, “I eat because I’m unhappy, and I’m unhappy because I eat. It’s a vicious cycle.”‘

To top it off, I had zero motivation for anything and often felt lethargic. I didn’t workout. I didn’t update my blog. I told my kids I’d read them books later. I passed my time with simple pleasures: memes on Reddit and games on my iPhone. I got the point where much of the content on Reddit were reposts and I unlocked all the achievements in Plants vs. Zombies (this was 1000 times less exciting than I thought it would be).

WAH! WAH! WAH! Will you get to the point already?!?!?!

Right. So, now we’re back to me looking at my jiggly, unmotivated self in the mirror on my birthday.

I sat down and made goals for my 30th year.

1) Eating whole food – I read In Defense of Food, watched Food, Inc., a few years back but processed and fast foods were so much more convenient for us as parents. D1 is now able to point out McDonald’s, Panda Express, and other fast food places in the car. Yeah, it’s time to change.

I’m going to try and follow “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” So that means minimally processed food (no more than 5 ingredients). But don’t worry, I’m still going to enjoy a juicy, sizzling steak every now and then.

I like it rare

2) Consume more Scripture and less media

3) Exercise regularly – 3x/week

Aside from having to pee every morning around 6am, 30 doesn’t physically feel any different than 29. But I’m resolved to make it my best year yet.

Go, Pop, go!!!

What about you? Have you made any goals for 2012? What changes did you go through when you hit a milestone birthday?

  1. January 24, 2012 at 11:31 am

    Hang in there . . . things get better, and it looks like you’re already working on ensuring that things will get better.

    The housing market did a lot of things to a lot of people. Considering that I moved to Maryland after college, specifically for a girl, and things didn’t work out, and now I’m back where my mom was living, I’ve lamented the fact that I didn’t just live with her for a few years, until I figured out a bit more about myself.

    But, I’d have probably spent the money I was saving on booze, and I might be even worse off for that.

    • Pop
      January 24, 2012 at 11:52 am

      Thanks, John! Things have already been getting better. Amazing what a little perspective and resolve will do.

      And booze.

      • January 24, 2012 at 5:01 pm

        Oh, sweet booze.

  2. January 24, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Good to see you back here and ready to tackle life! I got pretty jiggly at 30, too. It’s a rather uncomfortable feeling. So as soon as I hit “post comment” I’m going to mount the elliptical and work it til I feel the burn. That should take about 15 minutes. After that I’ll probably have to go have a soda to keep me awake. So much for burning calories, huh?

    Keep up with the blogging – I miss you around these parts!

    • Pop
      January 24, 2012 at 2:28 pm

      So how’d the mounting of the elliptical go?

  3. January 24, 2012 at 4:02 pm

    Ok. So. Sorry, but I got totally hung up on the “i like it rare” caption. Easily distracted.

    Welcome to 30! I didn’t make goals at 30, other than “survive pregnancy” as I was 7 or so weeks in with my first. I liked being 30. Bet you will too.

    • Pop
      January 24, 2012 at 4:05 pm

      I’m also easily distracted. Especially by rare meat!

      That was a pretty good goal for you! Surviving parenthood? Whole other ball game

  4. January 25, 2012 at 12:38 am

    You’ve reached thirty recognizing that the way to eat steak is rare.
    Everything else is gravy. (So to speak.)

    Congrats on the milestone. When I hit 40, I made drastic changes all of which majorly improved my own life and the happiness of my family so I say GO YOU!

    (Even though you’re really young and I’m jealous; and although I don’t wish the last 13 years away, I’d love to do a few things differently between 30 and 40. Cough.)

    Your goals are admirable and (in my humble opinion) once you put it in writing (and on the internet) you’re far more likely to follow through…

    We blog folk are good for inspiration. And also sharing steak.
    You know. If you have extra.

    • Pop
      January 26, 2012 at 9:04 am

      So if I read correctly, you’re proposing to eat all my steak thereby helping me to lose weight? This is a win-win. no?

  5. January 25, 2012 at 8:40 pm

    I feel as though I should throw you a box of tampons and a month’s supply of midol.
    I’m glad you’re back.
    PS. I’d kill for that slab of meat.
    PPS. *insert perverted joke here*
    PPPS. Wait don’t do that.

    • Pop
      January 26, 2012 at 9:05 am

      Send chocolate too.

      P.S. We’ll keep it g-rated. For now.

  6. January 25, 2012 at 11:18 pm

    So glad to see you back. Keep blogging about the eating changes (I’m trying to do the same thing) and I think it will help keep you accountable. Maybe a once a month check-in. And listen, you are clearly a dedicated husband and father. You guys will bounce back. We (your blog fans) are all rooting for you!

    • Pop
      January 26, 2012 at 9:06 am

      I may have to do weekly b/c I’m weak like that. Thanks, Nina!!!

  7. January 27, 2012 at 6:41 am

    Is that REALLY the cake you got for your 30th? That is so sad! lol This post resonates with me because I too use food for comfort, and have had little motivation for anything. I’m STILL struggling with that but making progress. hubs and I are starting the 17 day diet, which sounds gimmicky but really isn’t. Let’s rock this whole foods thang.

    • Pop
      January 27, 2012 at 12:08 pm

      You were such a huge inspiration last year 🙂 So let’s rock this together! WOOHOO!!!

  8. February 1, 2012 at 2:10 am

    1. Yes. That clown cake kind of freaks me out. OK. It freaks me out a lot.
    2. Wait. Does McDonald’s count as processed food with more than 5 ingredients? I think I might be in trouble.
    3. Happy belated birthday, you youngin’.

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