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A Letter to My Daughter: A Good Name

The following is a letter to my daughter, mostly of things that have been on my mind as of late pertaining to christianity. Not important enough to be strewn all over the front page, but if you’re inclined to read, click below.

Dear Daughter,

You’re still not potty trained and you’re not very good at sharing with others, especially if it’s a book or anything w/ the Disney princesses on it, but here’s a letter for you about things God has been revealing to me as of late that I’ll be reading to you when you’re older.

The Bible says

“A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” Proverbs 22:1

So how do you get a good name? Character. It’s a really broad thing w/ many definitions and some really nice quotes, e.g., character is who you are when no one is looking, but I’d say just stick with what’s written in the Bible and you’ll be good.

I’m not sure when I will be reading this letter to you, but it’s reasonable to assume that by and large, people won’t care about their character or what others think of them so long as their goals are being met. For example, when you were born, you were already in debt and one of the reasons is that banks engaged in predatory lending practices, made tons of money, and regulators did little more than look the other way b/c all those involved had their pockets nicely lined. Except their pockets were lined with “money” the borrowers didn’t have and it all came tumbling down. So guess who has to foot the bill? You will…for the rest of your life. Congratulations. 🙂

Ok, sorry. Daddy’s being cynically sarcastic again, and at this age, I would hope you’re not cynical nor would you understand sarcasm. But I digress.

Sadly, christians also seem to have lost their focus on being esteemed. You’ve got christians fighting gay marriage since it’s not “traditional” as defined by God between a man and a woman, but they tend to overlook the inconvenient fact that God hates divorce and He demands that aside from marital unfaithfulness, we fight for our marriages. Christians rail against abortion and ironically, some will kill to stop it. Daddy is definitely pro-life, but daddy finds it odd that christians are fighting against abortion laws while many christian teens are getting abortions. It’s not that what they are standing for is wrong, it’s that we don’t have the strength of character to fall back on so we resort to yelling louder.

So that’s going to be the world you grow up in: a world where people are more focused on their agendas than their own families.

Recently, some prominent christians have been in the news for all the wrong reasons. Todd Bentley helped lead the Lakeland revival but had a massive moral failure. Michael Guglielmucci faked having cancer to write a song about believing that God is a healer. Typically, christians responded with something along the lines of, “We all sin. Didn’t Jesus say let he who is without sin cast the first stone?” And that’s true – we’re not the ones who should condemn. But what bothers daddy is that christians tend to focus more on anointing and gifts–especially things like healing and prophecies–than on character. Sadly, christianity is heavily commercialized in the US and people with special gifts make a lot of money. But remember, a good name is more desirable than great riches.

Don’t desire to be loved and celebrated b/c of what you do; be loved and celebrated b/c of who you are. Don’t worry about practicing your spiritual gifts; spend time becoming like Jesus. If you can do that, you’ll be someone God can use for a long, long time.

Daddy has been praying for revival since 1999. Since then, there have been lots of outpourings where God will move in a specific region for a specific period of time, with many signs and wonders. But daddy’s desire isn’t for christians to enjoy the presence of God; it’s that people who don’t believe in God or know about God will come under conviction and realize He is the only way. If God brings revival in my time, we’re going to need many men and women of character to steward what God is doing. Look at Jesus…many people slandered and accused Him falsely, but there was never a scandal with Him. If you look at the Apostles, they were incredibly gifted, but they were men of incredible character. In the Old Testament, you see men and women whom God developed incredible character in over a long period of time, e.g., 40 years with Moses, David growing up as a shepherd boy, etc…That didn’t mean they didn’t fail in things, but they were able to enjoy incredible intimacy with God and great favor with men b/c of their character.

Don’t be a pursuer of gifts/giftings, but seek to be a vessel that will carry anointing with purity, dignity, and humility.

So pursue character, say yes when someone asks, “With cheese?”, look both ways before crossing the street, order your steaks rare and your eggs over easy, and remember that boys have cooties.


  1. stephen yang
    March 11, 2010 at 11:28 am

    wow this is a great letter. i hope your daughter reads this when she’s my age and realizes how lucky she is to have a dad like you 🙂

    • Pop
      March 11, 2010 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks, OS! That’s nice of you to say!

  2. Ina
    March 11, 2010 at 4:08 pm

    So beautiful, Pop.

    • Pop
      March 11, 2010 at 11:08 pm

      Thanks, Ina!

  3. citygirlblogs
    March 11, 2010 at 11:36 pm

    I love this! Blessed is J to have you as a father! Go, Pop, Go :)!

    • Pop
      March 12, 2010 at 9:30 am

      Awwwww, thanks Twin!

  4. Elysa
    March 12, 2010 at 4:13 am

    I’m supposed to be studying for my mid-term, but I stumbled across this. Had to read it. Good stuff Baby Daddy 🙂

    • Pop
      March 12, 2010 at 9:30 am

      haha! Glad I could aid in your procrastinatin baby girl taeja young shoot!

  5. October 10, 2011 at 2:52 pm

    Generally I do not read article on blogs, however I would like to say that this write-up very forced me to check out and do it! Your writing taste has been surprised me. Thank you, quite nice post.

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